You must look around and ask yourself “the 3 questions for 3 losers”:

-are they a loser?

-am I a loser?

-are you a loser?

 

You want:

-REFERENCE of a loser is

-awareness of LOSERS in your life, losers you tolerate

-and also acceptance of yourself likely being a loser

 

Loser means simply NOT trying, it’s that simple,

it means you wanted something, or thought something was more optimal — but you lost, and stayed that way, you stayed a loser

it also means you’re doing something objectively poorly, and it makes no fucking sense whatsoever, and cannot be explained by any quirk, other than the fetish of being a fucking loser

 

This is actually important

We like to call some people losers but think ourselves champions

Or maybe we don’t like to call nobody loser, we don’t even want to think about losing. We pretend all is well and perfect, and everyone is gorgeous

Or maybe we think someone a loser but won’t tell them

Or maybe we sense ourselves being fucking losers, but fear admitting it

 

Furthermore,

You may feel perfectly comfortable calling others losers, calling the 3rd person a loser, behind their back,

You don’t feel so comfortable telling this to my face

But maybe, maybe you’re scared I will call you a loser in return

 

Maybe you should just admit that you’re a loser

Admit where you failed

And then you don’t have to fear being called a loser no more

And you can call a spade a spade

 

This is the 3 losers problem

It’s admitting what a loser is

What losing is

What could be done better

What more could be done

And admitting it consistently across different people in our lives

Others, and strangers, that’s easy, UNLESS they do better than us, make us feel insecure

People close to us, people we accept in our lives, that’s more difficult to admit

And of course ourselves

And then confronting the consequences of that truth

And especially the consequences of revealing that truth

 

Of course, ultimately, “just critique actions and ideas”,

Except we still have ego

Why not call a spade a spade

That is what you truly fear

Not that you fail an action or espouse a bad idea,

You fear failing as a human being

Others fear failing as human beings

How about we learn to confront this fear

Start from admitting that we are fucking LOSERS — and ACCEPTING IT

The real negative consequence of being a loser is as present before you admitted it — as it is after

You just now have to confront it

And then actually do something about it