KNOW the difference between a COMPROMISE and a WIN-WIN

 

Some always compromise and some never compromise

False dichotomy

You could just kill two birds with one stone

 

You have one stone but you want two birds

You compromise and aim at the fatter bird

You don’t even get that bird, with your sloppy shooting

If you got the angle right — you would have gotten two birds

 

SHOULD YOU BE FLEXIBLE OR RIGID, OH MY GOD

SHOULD YOU BE SINGLE-MINDED OR SPONTANEOUS

SHOULD YOU BE CONSTRAINED OR UNCONSTRAINED

SHOULD YOU BE DISCIPLINED OR FREE

OMG

FALSE

DICHOTOMY

 

Feckless fails to persevere and thus FAILS altogether

Disciplined disciplines himself his entire life, and thus he’s as dead and stupid and will-less like a robot

Weak compromises on his dreams and regrets

Strong doesn’t dream — all he knows is his to-do list

 

Here’s the deal

FLEXIBILITY DOESN’T ENTAIL AIMLESSNESS

DOESN’T ENTAIL COMPROMISE

DOESN’T ENTAIL INEFFECTIVENESS, IDLENESS

OBVIOUSLY

FLEXIBILITY DOESN’T ENTAIL UNACCOUNTABILITY

 

It’s not a compromise if you kill two birds with one stone, and it’s obviously not a failure

You don’t fail to deliver — you OVER deliver

You had but one stone but you still made it work

Well done

 

Our problem is that we fail to think outside the box

We encounter obstacles and we either power through, persevere

or give up, either completely, or by compromising

both attitudes are stupid

both disregard working around the problem

sometimes we are ingenuous and find clever solutions

but we tend to get so fixated with a fixed, PERFECT trajectory of our lives — that we disregard workarounds and opportunities

 

the problem lies in that indeed without this unnatural fixation we fail to persevere to the end

Sense of direction alone doesn’t do it for us — we want the entire itinerary

Again, a dichotomy: either we have a plan (and get somewhere) — or we have no plan and get nowhere

We lack the overarching consciousness and intelligence to guide us. Instead we have to rely on fixed solutions, fixed road-signs, fixed plans and maps and checkpoints…

 

You don’t get your checkpoint — it’s a compromise!

You stray from the main road — you meekly turn back and return!

If you’re crying and go all the way home — it’s a failure

If you’re holding your head high, return to the main road, then move forward — it’s a compromise

And yet you could have simply found another route…! Maybe quicker still!

Be resourceful

 

Again,

You go from one dichotomy to other

It’s win-or-lose dichotomy

Then it’s compromise or not-compromise

All the time failing to see that you could work around problems WITHOUT compromising

 

Again,

simple problems you find simple ways to work around

your gps finds another way when there is a traffic jam

but in your own life — you fail to transcend this persevere or compromise mentality

you’re torn between disciplined and unconstrained

organised and spontaneous

rigid and flexible

 

there’s no point to be!

set your goals in such ways that there are MANY ROUTES to them

DON’T compromise your goals and NEITHER compromise your FREEDOM. You can pick up BOTH your goals and EVERYTHING ELSE ALONG THE WAY

Be accountable to yourself on a HIGH LEVEL — in which you account and review your goals over a long period of time — with a high degree of freedom along the road — but responsible and uncompromising appraisal at the end

This way you kill two birds or 10 fucking birds with one stone