You think the way you interact with people is “normal”. You think changing your default behaviour is “not being real”, or “unnatural”, perhaps.

The way you interact with people is not normal. The way you create relationships is not normal. It is not normal and it is not natural.

You are a victim of your conditioning — and from it stem your inhibitions, your distrust, your awkwardness, your hostility, your insecurity, your fear.

Learning confidence, learning charisma, learning influence — all of it only attempts to mask the elementary predicament of your distorted perspective on others.

How would you be lacking confidence if you didn’t feel inferior?

How would you be hostile to others if you didn’t fear them?

Your actions will always reflect your dispositions.

You can be forever grappling with yourself to “act the right way”, because you only learnt to adjust your behaviour. Your perspective remains unchanged and it is reflected in your struggle.

People are nice. A little bit scared. Confused to say at least.

But if you can see them- you can love them. And if you can love them – they can love you.

Don’t be “more attractive”. Be more loving.