There’s what you think

There are those around you

There’s care you have for them

There’s what you understand about them

There’s what you don’t understand about them

There’s what you don’t understand

There’s what you want from them

 

It’s all conflicted isn’t it?

You believe one thing,

They believe another thing,

The truth is YET another thing

 

It’s all conflicted isn’t it?

You care for them,

You want to help them,

You want to give them the truth

You also don’t want to hurt them,

And then you also WANT something from them

 

It’s all conflicted isn’t it?

You can give the truth — and lose the person

You can keep the person — and lose yourself

You can give the truth — except it’s not The truth

You can keep your relationship, your cooperation — and lose together

You can attempt improvements and only deteriorate matters

You can give the truth — and break the person

You can ask for the truth — then refuse it

You can ask for the truth — yet be unable to comprehend it

You can care for the other person — yet refuse to give them the truth

You can care for the other person — yet refuse their truth

 

Now:

It’s easy to either ignore the person and focus on the values,

or to ignore the values and focus on the person

 

Are those two mutually exclusive?

Not in the long term. The ultimate well-being of a person is always compatible with the truth, the pursuit of the truth

In the long term — you ONLY want to give the truth — and whoever ever receives the gift of truth, in one matter or another — he is always better off long term

 

However in the short term: your values will be conflicted with the other person’s values

Your truth will be conflicted with the practical functioning of your relationship

“Individuals search for truth, groups search for consensus”

 

There WILL BE A CONFLICT

Avoiding it only delays the inevitable:

It can be the truth and necessary evolution

It can be the truth and necessary destruction

Or it can be the truth and inevitable catastrophe — if attempted to be avoided

 

There will be a conflict

You can’t avoid it

And you must be aware of it

And you must make a conscious choice

It MAY actually be short-term-desirable to defer the revelation of the truth

It’s never ever long-term desirable

Do what you have to do in your organisation, in your relationship, if you must

Then reveal the truth

 

You must reveal the truth

Your truth, of course. You don’t have THE Truth,

But must reveal your truth — so that all the parties involved have the information necessary for productive cooperation

 

You must reveal the truth

Truth can’t ever be concealed

Reality always reveals the truth anyway

If you’re right and they are wrong — the reality will eventually reveal it. Please be so kind and enlighten them yourself.

If you’re wrong and they are right — they will gladly tell you, once you revealed your ignorance. You must open your mind now, listen carefully, learn what there is to learn — then TEST IT. Now you know the truth

 

Your emotions will betray the truth too

We eventually speak our mind when emotions build up and can no longer be held back

We use that fuel to finally do what we always wanted to do: REVEAL OUR TRUTH

Reveal our thoughts, reveal our feelings, reveal OURSELVES

However now it’s accompanied with all this negativity and resistance and anger — and those qualities make it aggressive and destructive in and of itself.

You are better off immediately revealing your perspective. It will still create conflict — but at least there’s the highest chance of resolving it.

 

So brace yourself:

Some of us are gifted with empathy

Some of us are gifted with coolness

Some of us become very socially and emotionally intelligent

Some of us attain the necessary clarity and will to be successful in their various endeavours: business, social, romantic, educational, etc.

Some of us understand that the truth is the greatest value — and they will always share it, and they will never withhold it, never conceal it

Some of us are full of love — and LOVE they give

And you?

You must be ALL OF THAT

Always ready to give the truth

Give it willingly

Sometimes coolly,

Give it LOVINGLY

Give it intelligently — so as to not hinder the functioning of the organisation/relationship

Give it emphatically — understanding the brutal impact it can often have

You must be all of that

 

If you love them — give them truth

If you love the world — give it truth

If you love yourself — give your truth

Do it as intelligently and empathetically as possible

Do it with LOVE

But give the fucking truth