To not be a hater is already to get ahead.
To not be a critic is already to get ahead.
To not be a sceptic is already to get ahead.
Sceptics, at best, see flaws but don’t see solutions.
They may be right about the visible flaws but they have no clue about the invisible solutions.
You find invisible solutions by EXPLORING
Sceptics are sceptical therefore do nothing therefore don’t explore therefore achieve nothing
Critics, at best, see errors, but don’t see improvements.
If they saw improvements they would implement them and change the world.
Criticism is easy — changing the world is hard. Changing anything is hard.
Unless your criticism is facilitating real, tangible improvements — then it’s useless, therefore a distraction
It’s thus detrimental to you and the world — because you could be doing something constructive.
Haters, at best, hurt themselves. And at worse they hurt everyone else
Haters focus on what they hate.
Whatever you focus on you perpetuate
Obviously you perpetuate it — the moment you materialize it in your mind — you PERPETUATE it in your mind.
It could have been already gone from your mind, you could have been focused on everything else — but you are focused on that which you hate
Thus you perpetuate it
And the world is your mind. Whatever happens outside — your mind will interpret it — and what you call the world is that which is already in your mind, interpreted by it.
Therefore if it’s hateful then the world is hate-worthy
And then you act in this hateful world creating more hate
No you don’t want to be a critic, a sceptic, a hater
You don’t want your focus to be on what DOESN’T WORK, what is NOR RIGHT, what is unjust, unpleasant…
This doesn’t get you anywhere
Yes, there is some “negative” knowledge which is absolutely crucial to not cause more damage. Some vital “NOT TO DO’s”.
But after that — you do have to go ahead and DO SOMETHING. Live somehow. You can’t just do nothing.
You can’t just do nothing and avoid doing the wrong thing, the stupid thing,
You have to do something
You have to find something GOOD.
You have to find something GOOD and do something good.
And you can’t find nothing good if all you find is what you hate.
And you can’t find any inspiring ideas if all you see are flaws.
And you can’t do anything if all you focus on is criticism.
In truth: any HATING, any scepticism, any criticism, is a compromise. You AT BEST end up NOT doing something. Not taking the risk. But you never gain. Therefore it’s at best a compromise. And at worst a loss
Of course don’t be a complete idiot and try flying out of the window. But it doesn’t take a critic or a sceptic or a hater to fucking tell you that. It’s quite clear
Therefore you’re best of eradicating ALL the hating, scepticism, criticism, cynicism,
And as you’re at it: eradicating all the pride, all the superiority, all the ego.
So
HOW TO NOT BE A HATER A CRITIC A SCEPTIC?
Start by doing instead of talking.
The one time to be a critic is when your actions themselves constitute the criticism.
Next, look for the good
Like I said previously — you have to do something.
Therefore you look for the GOOD. You don’t look for what you don’t like or what you don’t believe or what you think is wrong. You look for the GOOD ONLY.
And once you found the GOOD — you DO GOOD.
Finally, on the deepest level…
…when you consider it for a moment — nobody is a “hater” by choice. Nobody will be proud on his deathbed over a lifetime of hating.
Therefore being a hater is an error, an addiction, a flawed way of being, an unfortunate personality, a bad habit.
How do you break this habit?
Well you have to break you
You have to break the whole personality of a hater, once and for all
You have to decide on a deepest level to let the hater DIE
It can’t be you merely suppressing the hate within. It has to be the death of hate
If you only understand the necessity of it to die — then you may be able to let it die
It may require profound introspection, it may require changing your every thought, it may require changing your entire personality, it may require changing your entire environment, it may require changing your entire life,
But this exactly proves my point
If being a hater is such a deep problem — then NOT being a hater is obviously a cure for so many impediments and limitations
Of course it has to be deep
If the change you expect should be deep
And it is deep
To not be a hater is already to be ahead
The best opportunities you subconsciously reject because you’re scared
And then you “hate”
If you didn’t have this hating defence mechanism — then you would see your own fear and vulnerability
And you would be able to confront it.
And then you would be able to transform it.
And then it would no longer hold you back.
And then you could do WHATEVER YOU WANT.
Finally
Ultimately you want to LOVE your enemy.
You want to recognise the fellow human, mortal and flawed, like yourself.
You want to recognise how ultimately his well-being is interconnected with your well-being.
You want to help that fellow human and you want him to help you.
You want to learn from him and teach him.
You may be in different places in life but you are both human, mortal and flawed, and trying to do the best for yourself.
Love him like you love yourself.
(Love yourself first! That’s another lesson!)
And this obviously means the cessation of negative emotions.
And this obviously means care for the well-being of that person.
And I’m not asking for no fake charity, support for some false noble cause, support for the poor oppressed, no no.
I want you to look at every person with love and compassion
And then I want you to ask yourself HOW COULD YOU HELP THAT PERSON,
What could you TEACH that person
And the moment you ask that question — as if magically you begin to empathize with that person
And if you can actually genuinely help that person — then naturally you begin to care for that person — which begins the process of cooperation with that person
Which is the end of competition and hate
Thus
Next time you see someone and feel something “negative”
First recognise the hater-program and critic-program and sceptic-program in you, operating in your subconscious
Do whatever it takes to get rid of it. You can start by recognising how ridiculous it is, how unworthy of your time and counterproductive, this hating-game.
And then you can actually look at that person with love, if you can,
And why don’t you ask yourself how could you HELP THAT PERSON, what could you TEACH that person
And why don’t you ask yourself what could you learn from that person,
And why don’t you compliment that person, find good in that person
What kind of world do you want to live in?
Not being a hater already gets you ahead
Being loving already gets you ahead