“No second chances” is a heuristic that is simply effective.
When something failed 5 times in a row — you can’t rely on it. You get rid of it
But when SOMEONE fails us 5 times — somehow our instinct is to get angry, or try to explain it, or try to punish it…
Our instinct is ANYTHING but just GETTING RID of the broken thing
When something FAILED — you GET RID OF IT. You have enough proof that it doesn’t work,
But with people — somehow we take it personal
Somehow we overcomplicate it
It doesn’t matter if they failed you those 10 fucking times because:
-they had a TERRIBLE luck (as usual)
-they are just so stupid
-they just can’t help it
-they just don’t give a fuck
-they are mentally ill
If it failed you 10 fucking times — it’s not gonna WORK now! It’s fucking broken!
YOU DON’T HAVE TO KNOW WHY SOMETHING DOESN’T WORK IN ORDER TO KNOW THAT IT DOESN’T WORK!!! (knowing-that)
GET RID OF WHAT DOESN’T WORK
And it’s nonsense that this is insensitive
And if we actually operated like that, the world would be a better place:
—You take responsibility for the people you work with and surround yourself with
—You don’t blame them endlessly for fucking up — you just get rid of them — and don’t have to blame anyone any more. You do it yourself, or with someone else
—You don’t have to waste any more time either. Your time, their time, and everyone’s time
—By cutting the incompetent behaviour immediately you prevent the cancer from growing
—Again: you’re NOT emotional, you’re sensible, practical, professional. You are representing VALUES. It’s NOT personal, it’s NOT ambiguous — you are representing and expecting concrete, substantive values
Of course you CAN give a second chance. People are not perfect,
But even if you didn’t — the world would be a better place
In the worst case scenario — it will be YOU who will be REJECTING yourself from society (by rejecting everyone else, thus separating, thus ending up separated). In which case your RUTHLESSNESS will serve to help YOU yourself fix your standards and expectations,
But in most scenarios — you will just narrow down the people around you to the VERY BEST
No overthinking
No nonsense
No second chances
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