One is either moving and growing and elevating himself — or not
The one whose not moving doesn’t truly care what happens to him and what he’s doing. He may say he cares but his actions speak otherwise. Let’s assume his actions reveal the truth of it
The one who is moving and growing and elevating himself — he’s moving and exploring and for him possibilities are unravelling
The one who is not moving has no possibilities to unravel. No new routes to take. No routes to take whatsoever. Because he’s not moving, he is stagnant
I believe to live life is to explore, to grow, to change, to move
The one who is moving is soon overwhelmed by the abundance of possibilities, choices, alternatives
This is his struggle
The choices he must make
And at first the choices are easy
But eventually he faces two unknown routes, two attractive routes, and you can take only one
He realizes that no matter what he does — he can’t have it all. He is bound to waste his potential
The one who is not moving doesn’t have this dilemma,
He is not moving therefore he has no routes to take and no choices to make therefore no potential,
He who has no potential can’t waste his potential, can he?
Unless you’re already moving, moving very intensely, passionately, zealously, adventurously — then you stand to benefit from taking as many challenges as possible, taking on as many new things as possible, trying and doing as many new and fresh and different things as possible
This is life-living
But if you’re already an explorer,
Already consumed by this desire to CREATE, desire to LEARN, desire to PLAY
Then you are soon overwhelmed by the abundance of possibilities, choices, alternatives
You have TOO MANY OPTIONS, TOO MANY ROUTES TO TAKE
And you must learn to say NO
NO, NO, NO, and NO
INFINITELY MANY NOs
Because you soon realize that possibilities are infinite,
But you can only realize a very, very FINITE number of them
Thus you become the one whose “saying NO to ALMOST EVERYTHING”
NOT because you shy away from the challenge, the possibility, the adventure
THE VERY OPPOSITE
You have so many possibilities now that to dedicate yourself to one of them — you have to discard the REST of them
You say “NO”
You say “NO” to enormous number of things
And of those things many sound very very attractive
But NOT ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH
You discard them
It’s not an easy thing to do
Especially at the start,
We’re not so great at saying “no”
Most of us never had this problem of having too many options. Most of us are boring and stagnant
You don’t learn to say “no” without practising saying “no”, without making hard choices between various alternatives, and standing by your choice
You’ll want to go with some kind of a compromise,
You’ll want to do justice to all the gifts of fortune, gifts of the world, gifts from other people,
Until you learn that it doesn’t really work,
You just have to say “NO”
Many people would die for an opportunity like those available to you — and yet you discard them like those are nothing
Because you have even BETTER things to do
Concluding,
I still recommend being great at very many things
I recommend TRYING EVERYTHING YOU CAN
I recommend going after experiencing as much as you can, of this life, and of whatever aspect of life specifically that interests you,
I recommend INTENSE EXPLORATION, INTENSE TRIAL-AND-ERROR, EXTREME OPEN-MINDEDNESS, almost naive
But
after some time of living this way — you have TOO many attractive possibilities,
too many “new” things to do (to just go by the rule of always doing something new),
you have to make some choices
and then more choices
and you have to discard a few possibilities,
and then you have to discard a LOT of possibilities,
and then eventually you learn to SAY NO TO ALMOST EVERYTHING
get to that point, by saying “YES” to possibilities, exploration, ideas, whims, inspirations,
get to that point — then learn to say “NO”, now that you know existential abundance