I often write that you should:

-give and give more

-make sure you give more in a relationship — so that you GUARANTEE that you keep it

-…and thus continue, selfishly, benefiting from that relationship

 

Here’s another puzzle:

Should you reward others EVEN IF it cost them nothing?

Answer is — obviously yes

 

First off — in doing so — you are protecting yourself from being wrong

What if you’re wrong and it DID cost them something?

In that case, you’re just an entitled ingrate, that got a free ride,

A SCROUNGER

Do you think it changes anything that you didn’t know?

The world doesn’t care about intentions — it cares about results

Intentions are downstream from results, not the other way around

 

Therefore obviously reward ANYTHING that benefits you

If you want it to keep happening to you

If you want to keep that relationship

 

Indeed the second point is:

In REWARDING IT — you make it clear you want more of it

You create incentive for the other party to keep giving this to you — so that you will reward them

It’s BASIC COMMUNICATION, no less

 

Finally, like I said many times,

in giving more — you create reciprocity

You end up getting even more in return, often

Treating others well is treating yourself well, selfishly