There’s the well-defined,
and there’s the intangible
relationships
fairness
attitude
intention
effort
will
intuition
confidence
worth
authenticity
attraction
But what does INTANGIBLE mean?
Does it mean those things don’t exist?
Does it mean those things are effectively intractable, UNCONTROLLABLE?
And therefore IRRELEVANT practically?
See that’s the fallacy of intangible, if you will
Acting as though intangible doesn’t exist
Or as though it can’t be dealt with whatsoever
Except,
that’s NOT what intangible means
Intangible may very well be difficult to define and understand and discuss and deal with
But it DOES exist
And that which exists — EXISTS in a VERY concrete way
It either exists — or doesn’t. Nothing “vague” and “intangible” and “fuzzy” about that
And it is therefore relevant
Intangible means you will have a hard time defining it precisely,
But you MAY BE ABLE to achieve SOME degree of precision
And then it’s game
Intangible means you may indeed find people disputing the existence of that very intangible thing
They will accuse you of making things up, of confabulating, or creating distractions, of sophism, and what have you
But
if you can’t agree on something important,
and as fundamentally as to agree on the existence of that thing,
then OF COURSE you will not find it easy to agree on anything else, will you
In which case, you really would be wise to recognise the severity of the situation beforehand,
and TERMINATE this arrangement,
now, of course,
that person might have only been gaslighting, making you appear crazy,
maybe they understood the “intangible” you referred the entire time
Indeed,
That it’s intangible doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist, or that it’s irrelevant
It’s not a true null hypothesis, if you will
Of course we should take what’s tangible and understood and well-defined — over stupid fucking fantasies, like religion
but when we have no better option — we deal with the uncertainty — and in as uncertain and vague and ill-defined form as it is
Don’t blame yourself for:
-having a problem with
-being fascinated by
-having doubts about
…something INTANGIBLE
Don’t make the mistake of acting as though it’s clear and real. That’s just sloppy and courts catastrophic miscommunication
But don’t pretend it’s “logical” and “incisive” to DENY the existence of that which you simply can’t grasp, can’t understand, can’t even rationalise
And don’t fall for those who tell you those intangible things are not real
They are either manipulating you — or deluding themselves