Being NOT real (fake) is disgusting because:

-then you’re IMPOSSIBLE to be trusted. you’re unknown (real you is unknown)

-and unknown comprises both good and bad.

-and the bad is not worth risking, if you can have the good instead, from someone else

+It also reeks of incompetence and worthlessness.

Otherwise you wouldn’t try to scam people into believing you’re something you’re not

 

But

being REAL is also disgusting

or rather

if there’s something actually disgusting about you — flaunting it is not really in your favour, is it? How could it be?

 

The way to be real, is to not try to conceal the bad, nor the good.

Reveal it when it’s pertinent. Acknowledge it for what you think it is.

That’s all

You can make light of it, of course. It’s a good attitude to many problems in life, it nicely balances out the excess effort, the undue tension, the exaggerated seriousness

But don’t poison it with irony, don’t use it as a shield,

in which case you’re just desperate for acceptance,

without actually owning who you are and what the consequences of that are

 

This is also why a drunk person often is not so wonderfully liberated and self-confident, is he?

— but is instead sloppy, undignified, dumb, incontinent

it’s their repressed ugliness coming through,

but WITHOUT the actually exonerating, liberating quality of SELF-AWARENESS, intelligence, true VULNERABILITY and true COURAGE

 

You should really be in touch with your ugliness, imperfections, weaknesses, at all times

so that you’re not tempted to hide them

DEFINITELY so that you’re not tempted to pass yourself off for someone you’re not, like a lying piece of shit,

and so that they are not coming out disgustingly and obliviously — when you’ve lowered your guard

 

This is the nuance to being REAL, vs FAKE, vs REPUGNANT

It’s about you actually caring about who you are, what your foibles are — at VERY LEAST to be aware of them,

(btw notice how this is the very opposite of NOT caring, of “not giving a fuck”, which is celebrated by fools who confuse it for liberation)

You may change, may choose not to change, may choose to be what you are… but you ARE making that choice. You KNOW who you are, you KNOW what you are.

And THEN, once you’re in touch with that — you can, and MUST, be real

Which entails having courage to be real