You think the way you interact with people is “normal”. You think changing your default behaviour is “not being real”, or “unnatural”, perhaps. The way you interact with people is not normal. The way you create relationships is not normal. It is not normal and it is not natural. You are a victim of …
Author: Janus
Directness Is a SUPERPOWER
Directness really IS a superpower. For it really only comes with self-acceptance, self-understanding, self love, self reliability… After a lifetime of self-denial, repression, compliance, obedience, self-sacrifice, trusting others with your happiness and self-worth — directness truly IS a superpower. …for when you finally say what you think — you are that much closer to DOING …
The Tragedy Of Indulgence
Indulgence conceals a terrible secret. It kills pleasure. Indulgence kills pleasure. It kills joy. It kills satisfaction. The very point of indulgence is pleasure, and yet, it kills pleasure obviously it doesn’t grant satisfaction, this much you’ve probably heard, but it basically kills pleasure, it will essentially destroy the joy. Do you know …
Forced Creativity is just REPETITION
Forced creativity is just repetition. How do you enforce creativity? What are you enforcing? You have a standard, an ideal of being creative — and now you try to reach it. This standard is obviously repetition. Or else, it wouldn’t be a standard. So you are just repeating what someone did once, and was …
“Giving Up On Dreams” Is An Oxymoron
“Giving up on dreams” is an oxymoron. It makes no sense. If you love doing something — why would you give it up? Your life would have to force you to give it up, yes? How does life force you to NOT do something? If you must support yourself, then do. It doesn’t …
The More Relaxed You Are The More Creative AND More Effective
Stress is not concentration. Relaxation is not slacking. Stress, biologically, is an organism’s response to a challenge. To put it simply — it quite simply makes you more suited for the challenge. It makes you smarter, faster and stronger. A lovely thing. Only — what is a challenge? Is life a challenge? I like …
Desire To Become Is Destructive
Desire to become is destructive. By wanting to be something you are destroying yourself. You think you ought to become this or that. You have an idea about yourself, which you think would be ideal. Which you think would be worthy. Which you think would be complete. You force yourself into meeting those …
Arrogance, Ignorance and KNOWING
What is arrogance? You think you’re right. That is why you do something. Who would like to be wrong? There is nothing to be gained in holding untrue beliefs, is there? No one consciously wants to be wrong. Everyone would rather be right. And when you think you’re right — obviously you won’t change your …
The Way Out Of Chaos Is NOT Through Order
What does your life comprises of? Things, yes? No not really. Just our “concept” of life. “The narrative”. But for must of us, the experience is hardly ever separated from the narrative. And from the self, in the centre of it all… What does your life comprises of? Where do the things come …
Clever Men, Clever Beliefs, Clever Nonsense
Stupid people have stupid beliefs. Clever people have clever beliefs. But it’s stupid all the same. …”clever” belief, “stupid” belief…it doesn’t matter. It’s all the same. Belief is a belief. It’s by definition stupid. It can be the most clever belief, but it’s still stupid. What is a belief? It’s a form of …