Anger is frustration with inability to control something. Things don’t go the way you expect -> anger Someone disappointed you, didn’t do what you expected -> anger etc. Upon getting angry, you can: -choose to stay angry, and direct that anger towards acquisition of more control -choose to stay angry, and direct that anger …
Category: Lifestyle
Don’t Find Yourself In The Wrong Pursuit
You are only what you did today. Only what you tangibly improved today matters. Only what you tangibly improved today is real. You are only defined by what you tangibly did better today. You are only worthy if you were worthy today. Only good if you were good today. Not yesterday, and NOT tomorrow. I’ve …
Algorithmic Downward Spiral
Men have their IDEAL self and their lowest self. One strives for truth — other for comfort and conformity and consensus. One strives for creativity and greatness and wellness — other for pleasure. Consciously we rather PRETEND to be the BETTER selves. Publicly we rather PRETEND to be the BETTER selves. Or we USED …
How to Use Nostalgia
Past is only useful as information, as a lesson. Past, psychologically, is an illusion. You no longer are in the past. The “past-you” doesn’t exist. If anything, the “past-you” and “future-you” are nothing but founts of pain. Therefore we learn to “let go” of the past. To “be in the moment”. Do let go …
Either Give Up Or Do Better
Either give up or do better. Never get used to failure. Never fail without good reason. Either give up already — or IMPROVE. It’s not “persistence” if you’re NOT improving. Either IMPROVE — or GIVE UP already. Even smallest improvement is a victory. But NOT improving is NOT acceptable. We have too many …
Daily Improvement Invariably Leads to Inner Change
I believe in TANGIBLY IMPROVING EVERY DAY. This is how I define success. This is how I define progress. I believe other measures are less reliable. The vital objection to this attitude is that GROWTH is not necessarily “DAILY”, and is not necessarily TANGIBLE, Growth is not linear. You can have a BIG DAY …
Commitment, Energy, Momentum, Resistance: how one moves
-Commitment is like a map, or like a plan, or like a guide. It’s the axis on which the momentum will be applied. -Momentum is like momentum — it’s the movement at certain velocity in certain direction — and the greater momentum the easier it is to sustain it and the harder it is to …
Your life = you. You = your life
Ultimately, how you feel about life is how you feel about yourself, and vice versa. Because whatever it is that you call “yourself” — is ultimately but a collection of your life experiences. Unjust life creates unjust people. Tough life creates tough people. Loving world creates loving people. Boring life creates boring people. Comfortable …
What MORE RESPONSIBILITY Means
“More responsibility” means more responsibility. Therefore “more responsibility” does not mean the same amount of responsibility, and it obviously does not mean LESS responsibility. What many do is they TRADE responsibilities, They will take more responsibility for one thing — and give up responsibility for something else -1+1 = 0. You didn’t take more …
You Talk In Lieu of Action
You talk in lieu of action. When you don’t know what to do — you start talking. When you’re reluctant to do something — you start talking. When you know what to do — you just do it. There’s nothing to talk about. It’s ok to pause and think — if it’s followed by …