Life gives you either exactly what you want, or NOT exactly what you want If it gives you NOT what you want — it forces you to YOURSELF take what you want That process of taking what you want, taking responsibility — is indeed the process of growing and evolving and elevating …
Category: Lifestyle
You Don’t Know Improvement (Unless You Improve Yourself)
You don’t know the “IMPROVEMENT” You think you know, but you don’t There’s not much you know BEFORE YOU TRIED IT, TESTED IT Few things are knowable a priori And the more complex the matter — the more testing it requires The greater the scale — the more testing it requires, And some matters …
Pleasure as Distraction, Pleasure as a Side-effect
Happiness is the default state of LIVING. Or it was the default state when you were born. But this and that happened — you recorded it in memory — and ever since it obscured this pristine, innate happiness. Pleasure is a side effect of LIVING. Living is doing things and moving — and pleasure …
To Know Who You Are Is To Not Know Fear, Not Know Doubt
To know who you are is to not know fear, not know doubt All fear is fear of death All doubt is doubt of one’s own survival, fitness To know who you are, truly know, is to not know fear of death Because to know who you are, truly know, is to know …
No Second Chances
“No second chances” is a heuristic that is simply effective. When something failed 5 times in a row — you can’t rely on it. You get rid of it But when SOMEONE fails us 5 times — somehow our instinct is to get angry, or try to explain it, or try to punish it… …
Mockery is Easy (Mockery is a COPE)
Mocking is easy Mockery is even easier than criticism Criticism is already easy: find some fault, focus on it, blow it out of proportions, EASY Sounding smart is easy, being convincing is easy, But mockery is REALLY easy, because ANYTHING can be mocked, Stupid shit and wrong shit can of course be mocked, but even …
Feelings as Intelligence
Feeling is one of the ways you get information But unlike objects you perceive on the outside — or thoughts you verbalize in your mind — feelings are quite intangible Of course we NAMED many feelings But it’s like naming colours. It really lacks detail and precision It’s blue but what shade of blue? It’s …
Modes of Wanting
-there’s something one wants -one is more wanting or less wanting -one either believes that what-one-wants is possible or not if he believes it’s indeed possible… -one either ACTS ON IT , DOESN’T ACT… or it’s a SPECTRUM (a hierarchy) -and to ALL OF THE ABOVE he can have anything from NEGATIVE to POSITIVE attitude …
MORE DISCRIMINATING = MORE LOVING
When you’re more discriminating you can be more loving Do you know why you get mad at people? You get MAD so that you can DO something, CHANGE something You get mad, you get upset, you grow discontented, you get worried, you get anxious — all of that so that you can DO something, …
BALANCE SHEET OF THE RELATIONSHIP
There’s a BALANCE SHEET in every relationship — it records the VALUE YOU GAVE, and the VALUE YOU RECEIVED. You ALWAYS want to have GIVEN MORE than you received. You want to have GIVEN MORE than you received. And you want that to be recognized by BOTH SIDES. Because VALUE in a RELATIONSHIP is …