TRUE TRAUMA is when you are completely convinced of being INNATELY, DEEPLY, IDENTITY-LEVEL … DAMAGED

Conversely if you’re NOT convinced — then you don’t care

 

The likelihood of you being CONVINCED is proportional to your EXPERIENCE (confidence) in the subject

-e.g. if you otherwise know NOTHING BUT SUCCESS — some idiot won’t immediately convince you that you’re useless

-but if you’re a young CHILD and IMPORTANT ADULT conveys it to you in ANGER — you are VERY MUCH CONVINCED

 

Again: the CRUX is whether it reaches IDENTITY LEVEL OR NOT.

If you KNOW you WILL BE ABLE TO IMPROVE — then it’s NOT a TRAUMA. It’s motivation, even.

 

The second variable is just how much the OTHER PERSON believes your FUNDAMENTAL DAMAGE

This is relevant, because therein lies the answer to why some are more traumatising than others, and how we ourselves can DEMAND without TRAUMATISING

 

MOST TRAUMATISATION happens WITHOUT even any wrongdoing: just by the VIRTUE of what someone BELIEVES

e.g. LOSER PEOPLE traumatise just by the virtue of their LOSER HOPELESS BELIEFS

You start believing there’s no hope for you, because they believe there’s no hope period

 

Then there’s the EMOTIONALITY which makes person temporarily believe things

This is why HYSTERICAL people are so traumatising

Besides emotion giving credence to their accusations,

From their perspective, it actually genuinely causes them to BELIEVE their DOOM PREDICTION

Which is obviously destructive to the confidence

 

Finally, proper COMMUNICATION can reverse a lot of damage

It’s no substitute for having TRUE LOVE and FAITH in the other person

However without CLEAR powerful communication (and empathy) — even that LOVE may FAIL to get through

Correct COMMUNICATION can often be enough to convince the victim of NOT BEING INNATELY IRREVERSIBLY DAMAGED — but MERELY IN TROUBLE, meaning there is HOPE

 

And finally on the highest level:

If you can TEACH others to improve — then you CURE the very source of trauma

This is also why you cure your own trauma the best by ACTUALLY facing your fears, actually taking action, and actually changing

Of course the very problem with trauma is how DEEP it goes, and that surface level fixes often totally miss the point

But if one can immediately take RIGHT ACTION in the face of TRAUMATISING CIRCUMSTANCES, even if small action — then the entire paradigm changes

Thus the inclusion of just the smallest glimmer of hope is so imperative for the future success

 

By the way, why do I speak of TRAUMATISING OTHERS?

Because life is traumatising

And you and I enjoy it

This is what makes us grow

Which is what makes us ALIVE

And when you’re ALIVE under pressure, when you’re ALIVE when you GROW and ELEVATE…

…then you’ll want like-minded people around you

Those that fail to keep pace — will get TRAUMATISED

Discrimination is a beautiful thing, it’s how we become better than we were yesterday

But it’s also traumatising, if you believe that there’s no hope for you

When someone believes there’s no hope — is when the TRAUMA has been too overwhelming

The pressure has broken their back

You don’t want this to happen: to them, to you

 

Heal yourself first, from your own broken back. We all break some spiritual bones as we grow up

Cure yourself by loving yourself ANYWAY, whether you win or lose

Then by doing the RIGHT THING — which is the single thing you DO control

 

When you’re healthy and LOVING — you can demand more

You can be more real

Because your insecurity and negativity and emotionality doesn’t distort your sincere, well-meaning vision

 

And then OF COURSE communicate better

And of course become an EXCELLENT teacher

And become motivating

Not in a cheese way, but in a way of a true leader — leading by example, and emanating genuine superior confidence and faith and vision