I have previously written on the subject, from a more spiritual perspective:
Today I take on the subject more pragmatically and simply
Judgement is innately divisive.
You use some criterion to divide objects into different categories, including categories of desirability, value.
Of course one would judge.
The first judgement one makes is to LIVE OR DIE. And then one makes all the following judgements resulting from this first judgement.
The statement “don’t judge” is targeted at the problem of division.
Why is division a problem in the first place?
It’s only a problem if more can be achieved together, in cooperation.
We value cooperation for it often achieves more. It’s synergistic.
And we have observed that division hinders cooperation.
And then we have observed that the action of judging is indeed an innately divisive one.
Thus we say “don’t judge” — in order to be able to COOPERATE. Rather than pointlessly COMPETE… or worse still destroy each other
So you want to judge, but you don’t want to judge?
There are only two principles here, which solve the seeming paradox:
-Judge wisely
-Be able to judge against judging (tolerate)
Judge wisely means that your judgement is RATIONAL and directed at maximisation of value
-Your value first.
-NOT at the cost of others.
-And preferably maximisation of value for everyone.
If you can’t do that — then unfortunately you need an authority over you to assure that your judgement and following actions are not adverse to someone else’s interest
Judging wisely in and of itself solves the problem,
But the nuance of being aware of the tactic of “judging against judging”, i.e. TOLERATING — makes it more clear to compromise
Compromise here not really being a compromise — since you’re objectively choosing the option that’s objectively best
You’re giving up a little to gain more
You’re buying the TV with lesser refresh rate (choose to not discriminate against lesser refresh rate) — but a larger one with better colours at a better price (choose to disciminate in favour of better price and colours).
You’re working with someone who you judge less professional than someone else. YES you’re judgemental and honest in admitting his fucking unprofessionalism being less than ideal. But if you recognise his other values and find value and utility in that relationship — you go along with it anyway. You’re BOTH JUDGING AND TOLERATING.
You should actually judge more, not less
But only when it matters
Only with skin in the game
Only with the clear, good purpose
And when you judge and make decisions and take actions and learn — you become judicious.
And good judgement creates favourable outcomes. Meaning you should only judge more still.
And NOT judging when you should be judging, not DECIDING when you should be deciding — is not doing anyone any favour
If anything it prevents the world from correcting itself, or correcting your perspective
Have a clear meaningful purpose — then judge your way there
Including judging to NOT judge, or judging to change your judgement,
And including judging to cooperate — despite different judgements