You don’t have the luxury of “self-acceptance”

Not unless you’re already improving

 

By default — when we see something we value, we like — we go ahead and take it, and utilise it, enjoy it, and we call it progress, call it an improvement — to have gotten hold of value, to have gotten hold of something nice

And by default — that which breaks — we go ahead and improve it

 

“Accept yourself”, or “accept the situation” — only becomes a “thing” when the above procedure ceases to work

When we can no longer get that thing which we think we like

Or when we can no longer fix that thing

Or when perhaps we no longer are sure it’s worth fixing, worth getting

And then we say:

“Accept it”

 

We also say: “either change it or accept it” — which is the same thing I just described,

By default you attempt to change it,

But should you choose not to — you accept it

You’re not in some torn, disconnected, confused state — in which you neither have peace (acceptance) — nor the goal (change)

 

This is the order. First you attempt to improve, first you attempt to change — THEN you may choose to “ACCEPT”

You don’t reverse that order

Then it’s just resignation

 

See this is the problem of prescriptions,

What works for one person doesn’t work for other

If you have a history of doing nothing — the advice for you is NOT to relax, NOT to let go, NOT to “accept”,

The advice is to get to work

 

And OF COURSE there’s YET more nuance,

You can need to BOTH ACCEPT IT — and GET TO WORK

Because your refusal to accept can be leading you not to work — but to complaining

In which case the impulse is simply perverted and utterly counterproductive

 

Or you may need to BEGIN with ACCEPTANCE — simply because without it you won’t even be able to MOVE, you’re so terrified

Your resistance to reality may be so strong — that you refuse to take any action — because you fear this reality exposed

In that case you decide to just ACCEPT ANY REALITY THAT MAY BE — and DO IT ANYWAY

 

Or perhaps your work is utterly FUTILE already,

And what you truly need is not to be more STUBBORN — but to simply GIVE UP.

Perhaps the action you must take is to CEASE action.

Perhaps it’s time to ACCEPT failure

 

See there is nuance

And ultimately you find the path by trying different things, and looking from different perspectives,

Sometimes it’s a perspective of DETERMINATION and WILL — sometimes of
FLUIDITY and ACCEPTANCE

Sometimes it’s trying different methods within the same undertaking — sometimes it’s trying the same method in different undertakings

But none of the above is TALKING about “ACCEPTANCE” and “FORGIVENESS”,

If you’re a talker — “acceptance” is not for you

Get to work