The only way for negative person, that is aggressive, proud, ambitious, to not be repulsive — is when you identify with “them”, as a group.

Ambition is always aggressive therefore it is always threatening. But when you yourself harbour that ambition then it’s not threatening to you – or at least that is what you think, blinded by it.

When you identify with someone, with “them”, then you can share ambition, and then your aggression, which is the world’s aggression, seems to be directed outside of you, and serving your own benefit.

When you identify with being outside the group, however — you will harbour even stronger negativity towards an out-group, simply out of fear. And you will be repulsed by the negative person, for it is simply a threat.

Now, what you perhaps live to understand, that all the negativity breeds is negativity, and it is indeed only thretening, regardless which side you are on… until you stop taking sides.

Not siding with negativity.

Not answering it with negativity.

Only letting it… dissolve.