When you’re more discriminating you can be more loving Do you know why you get mad at people? You get MAD so that you can DO something, CHANGE something You get mad, you get upset, you grow discontented, you get worried, you get anxious — all of that so that you can DO something, …
Tag: Conflict
KNOW Your Relationships
Every relationship/organisation has a purpose Whether it’s building a rocket to space — or a 5 minute chat. Every relationship realises that purpose in accordance to certain rules: explicit or implicit For the relationship/organisation to realize those goals effectively there must be the division of responsibilities Thus you are responsible for “A” and “B” — …
To Not Be a Hater Is Already To Be Ahead
To not be a hater is already to get ahead. To not be a critic is already to get ahead. To not be a sceptic is already to get ahead. Sceptics, at best, see flaws but don’t see solutions. They may be right about the visible flaws but they have no clue about the …
Complaining vs Changing vs Accepting
There’s complaining There’s making changes There’s accepting There’s complaining = merely expressing dissatisfaction There’s making changes = taking responsibility and changing the dissatisfying There’s accepting = accepting the situation, whether changed or not changed Of course complaining is not accepting And of course complaining is not making changes But it can be confused …
Truth Is Confidence
Truth is confidence If you know the truth Then you KNOW To know is obviously to be confident And to know, actually know, is to know the truth therefore to know the truth is to be confident (If you know the sky is blue — you are CONFIDENT the sky is blue. If …
PAUSE, Take a Breath
Pause Take a breath Pause whatever you’re doing — pause close your eyes and take a long breath or 2 or 10 or set a timer, a short MEDITATIVE INTERLUDE And the less you want to pause — the more VITAL it is that you pause Because chances are you don’t know where …
Give The Truth (And How)
There’s what you think There are those around you There’s care you have for them There’s what you understand about them There’s what you don’t understand about them There’s what you don’t understand There’s what you want from them It’s all conflicted isn’t it? You believe one thing, They believe another thing, The truth …
Debating is a Stupid Game
Debating is a game. Debating is not the pursuit of truth. You pursue truth by living life, taking action, taking risks, observing results, verifying your models, taking more action, taking more risks. This is how the truth is revealed to you. You live it and you pay for it. Debating is not the pursuit …
You’re Not a Bad Person
You’re not perfect — but you probably are NOT a “bad person” Bear with me We humans are sometimes too binary (and sometimes not binary enough) When things really matter — things like life and death — we learn to be decisive, we learn to be binary Things like good and bad We learn …
True Meaning Of “No Distractions”
There’s a spectrum between you: -being focused on the thing which must be done -being focused on everything else but the thing We explore the whole spectrum: sometimes getting “in the zone”, sometimes procrastinating entirely, sometimes everything in between, multi-tasking, etc. You can do whatever the fuck you want You don’t even have to …