There’s ability to listen and there’s ability to understand. Ability to listen is how well you listen. Ability to understand is how much you understand. Most people have MEDIOCRE ability to listen. “OK” is good. “GREAT” ability to listen is someone who wants to hear you EVEN if he doesn’t understand. “GREAT” ability …
Tag: Conflict
Is World Competition or Cooperation?
You can compete or you can cooperate. You can look at the world and see competition — or you can look at the world and see cooperation. To see the world as competition is called “competitive frame”. To see the world as cooperation is called “collaborative frame”. The world can be competitive or the …
What ENTITY Are You Dealing With Exactly?
There are entities. Entities comprise of entities. And entities comprise entities. An entity is different to entities it is comprised of. An entity is different to entity is comprises. Is it much different? Depends on scale. Depends on co-dependence. It can be very similar, It can be very dissimilar, Since entity comprising many …
PERHAPS WE DON’T SHARE VALUES
I can consider action or actions someone is taking as admirable, as productive, constructive, as professional, as good, as moral I can also consider them inferior to the actions someone else is taking, or I myself am taking I can view someone’s philosophy, someone’s approach, someone’s overarching plan — as productive, as constructive, as intelligent, …
You Can’t NOT Pick Side (And Can’t Avoid Conflict)
There’s knowable and there’s unknowable. Then there’s whether you think it’s knowable or unknowable — whether you think it’s known or not known. When you think it’s knowable and that you know it — you are confident — and confidently take a strong position. But what do you do when it’s unknowable — and you …
MORE DISCRIMINATING = MORE LOVING
When you’re more discriminating you can be more loving Do you know why you get mad at people? You get MAD so that you can DO something, CHANGE something You get mad, you get upset, you grow discontented, you get worried, you get anxious — all of that so that you can DO something, …
KNOW Your Relationships
Every relationship/organisation has a purpose Whether it’s building a rocket to space — or a 5 minute chat. Every relationship realises that purpose in accordance to certain rules: explicit or implicit For the relationship/organisation to realize those goals effectively there must be the division of responsibilities Thus you are responsible for “A” and “B” — …
To Not Be a Hater Is Already To Be Ahead
To not be a hater is already to get ahead. To not be a critic is already to get ahead. To not be a sceptic is already to get ahead. Sceptics, at best, see flaws but don’t see solutions. They may be right about the visible flaws but they have no clue about the …
Complaining vs Changing vs Accepting
There’s complaining There’s making changes There’s accepting There’s complaining = merely expressing dissatisfaction There’s making changes = taking responsibility and changing the dissatisfying There’s accepting = accepting the situation, whether changed or not changed Of course complaining is not accepting And of course complaining is not making changes But it can be confused …
Truth Is Confidence
Truth is confidence If you know the truth Then you KNOW To know is obviously to be confident And to know, actually know, is to know the truth therefore to know the truth is to be confident (If you know the sky is blue — you are CONFIDENT the sky is blue. If …