The real problems are the inner problems. Outside success can never bring about the ultimate bliss – which is when the inner problems are not. Inner problems are not solved through hard work or determination. Inner problems are solved by bringing consciousness to them. There is nothing more to be done with your …
Tag: Psychology
The Great Irony of Insecurity
The great irony with insecurity is that improving one’s life or status doesn’t really end it – whereas increasing one’s self-worth, self-esteem, confidence, will all tremendously benefit one’s life. The elementary condition of having low self-esteem cannot be solved through the external — for the problem is in it’s nature internal, rooted in our …
The Grand Theory of Opportunity, Momentum and Freedom
You are here. You are influenced. You get conditioned. You can only be influenced to the extent to which you are empty. (You can only be sensitive to the extent to which you are empty.) When you have became conditioned – you cease being pliable. When you’re full (of knowledge, beliefs, conclusions, thoughts), …
Your Surprise Betrays Your Expectations
You are surprised when something unexpected happens. For something to be unexpected – there must first be expectation, yes? Therefore – your surprise betrays your expectations. One invariably makes predictions. One tests those predictions against the data. One feels surprised upon models and results conflicting. The feeling perhaps facilitates the learning, facilitates curiosity. …
Consolation Only Aggravates The Problem
Consolation only aggravates the problem. It doesn’t relieve it. It escapes it. Consolation is but a distraction. It distracts you from the problem by bringing your attention to something else. In the same time – it is inseparable with the problem. You can only receive it having paid for it with suffering. Thus, in fact, …
Repeating Reason Is An Excuse
Delusion breeds inertia. Inertia breeds delusion. Psychologically, if you want to do something, but don’t do it for some reason – that reason is probably an excuse. If it repeats itself – then it’s certainly an excuse. You think your motivations and actions and pursuits can be reduced to a finite, logical plan. …
Beyond Like and Dislike
What is dislike? Is dislike the opposite of like? Isn’t like and dislike just labels? Isn’t like and dislike a spectrum? You like eating sandwiches but you prefer pizza. You don’t like eating tomatoes but you don’t like starving either. It’s all relative. “Like” and “dislike” serve your description of the reality. …
Look At The Intelligent
Our natural instinct is to look for ways to confirm our previous beliefs. It’s called confirmation bias. In fact it is not entirely useless. If we can find circumstances in which our beliefs are true – they practically become true. Pragmatically, your beliefs render you positive results. But for those of us concerned not …
Don’t Be More Attractive – Be More Loving
You think the way you interact with people is “normal”. You think changing your default behaviour is “not being real”, or “unnatural”, perhaps. The way you interact with people is not normal. The way you create relationships is not normal. It is not normal and it is not natural. You are a victim of …
Directness Is a SUPERPOWER
Directness really IS a superpower. For it really only comes with self-acceptance, self-understanding, self love, self reliability… After a lifetime of self-denial, repression, compliance, obedience, self-sacrifice, trusting others with your happiness and self-worth — directness truly IS a superpower. …for when you finally say what you think — you are that much closer to DOING …