Consolation only aggravates the problem. It doesn’t relieve it. It escapes it. Consolation is but a distraction. It distracts you from the problem by bringing your attention to something else. In the same time – it is inseparable with the problem. You can only receive it having paid for it with suffering. Thus, in fact, …
Tag: Psychology
Repeating Reason Is An Excuse
Delusion breeds inertia. Inertia breeds delusion. Psychologically, if you want to do something, but don’t do it for some reason – that reason is probably an excuse. If it repeats itself – then it’s certainly an excuse. You think your motivations and actions and pursuits can be reduced to a finite, logical plan. …
Beyond Like and Dislike
What is dislike? Is dislike the opposite of like? Isn’t like and dislike just labels? Isn’t like and dislike a spectrum? You like eating sandwiches but you prefer pizza. You don’t like eating tomatoes but you don’t like starving either. It’s all relative. “Like” and “dislike” serve your description of the reality. …
Look At The Intelligent
Our natural instinct is to look for ways to confirm our previous beliefs. It’s called confirmation bias. In fact it is not entirely useless. If we can find circumstances in which our beliefs are true – they practically become true. Pragmatically, your beliefs render you positive results. But for those of us concerned not …
Don’t Be More Attractive – Be More Loving
You think the way you interact with people is “normal”. You think changing your default behaviour is “not being real”, or “unnatural”, perhaps. The way you interact with people is not normal. The way you create relationships is not normal. It is not normal and it is not natural. You are a victim of …
Directness Is a SUPERPOWER
Directness really IS a superpower. For it really only comes with self-acceptance, self-understanding, self love, self reliability… After a lifetime of self-denial, repression, compliance, obedience, self-sacrifice, trusting others with your happiness and self-worth — directness truly IS a superpower. …for when you finally say what you think — you are that much closer to DOING …
The Tragedy Of Indulgence
Indulgence conceals a terrible secret. It kills pleasure. Indulgence kills pleasure. It kills joy. It kills satisfaction. The very point of indulgence is pleasure, and yet, it kills pleasure obviously it doesn’t grant satisfaction, this much you’ve probably heard, but it basically kills pleasure, it will essentially destroy the joy. Do you know …
The More Relaxed You Are The More Creative AND More Effective
Stress is not concentration. Relaxation is not slacking. Stress, biologically, is an organism’s response to a challenge. To put it simply — it quite simply makes you more suited for the challenge. It makes you smarter, faster and stronger. A lovely thing. Only — what is a challenge? Is life a challenge? I like …
Reciprocity Is Fear
Reciprocity is based on scarcity. And dependence. And clinging. Scarcity is ultimately always based on clinging. When you don’t cling — there is nothing to feel lacking about. Reciprocity is based on your lacking mentality. You are afraid that the giver will take away his gifts. You simply cling to the offerings. …
When You’re Bored – Do NOTHING
You are bored because you seek to be entertained. To seek is to be seeking. You seek it through hedonism and stimulation. It numbs you. Whatever you abuse – turns right against you. It’s simply unnatural. It’s not how homo sapiens fucking works. When you are bored — do NOTHING. If there’s a …