Gift of suffering is gift of gratitude Gift of good fortune is poisoned NOT ALWAYS, I don’t want no martyrs. Martyrdom and pessimism are self-fulfilling prophecies Kill yourself like a martyr and tell me what good it brought, if you can But yes You become virtually DISABLED from gratitude, appreciation — when you: …
Tag: Psychology
To Change Is The Only Thing Left
“The only thing that is constant is change” I often wonder about the hope for the hopeless Most of us have something to hope for But there are those man who don’t even have hope There’s nothing they hope for They are unhappy either way To those that have any hope — one …
Shameless vs Shame-free
SHAME is what protects you from CHANGING Ideally from changing for the worse But what is “worse” in the first place? Thus practically — shame often protects you from changing PERIOD. There are many LAYERS to SHAME, which can be shockingly independent There are things you’re ashamed of publicly but comfortable with otherwise And …
Self-control = CONTROL + SELF
Self-control = CONTROL + SELF We lose “self-control” because we either don’t have control — or don’t have power over our own selves CONTROL Control = having CONTROL over the SITUATION =not needing to rush it =not needing to get emotional about it =only CONTROLLING IT, as we desire =and only ENJOYING IT …
What Improvement Actually Means
Every single thing around you could be improved (Or, if it’s already perfect — it can still be changed, be made different) Every single thing around you can be improved It requires intent, Then realisation of that intent, There is a degree of exertion There is a movement of resources There is a change …
Rationalise The Irrational, Subjectify The Objective
There’s the known the logical, the understandable, the measurable, the objective, the rational, etc. And there’s the unknown, the inscrutable, the subjective, the irrational, etc Our idea of the world is obviously a blend of the two Concepts which are logical, which are coherent, which are sensible, Observations which suggest a generalisation with greater …
The 10% Bias
A common way of manipulating others and ourselves is “the 10% bias” I made up that name. I’m not familiar with similar bias, therefore I shall describe it here myself The 10% bias is when you let yourself be seduced by an extraordinary promise — under the excuse that “even if it’s only 10% …
You Whine And You Don’t Even Realise It
(I touched on the subject previously: Complaining vs Changing vs Accepting But it merits further exploration) -There’s acceptance -There’s determination -And there’s whining Whatever you say, whatever you think, whatever you do, whatever you feel, is a manifestation of one of those 3 Acceptance is calm Acceptance is understanding Acceptance is contented …
You’re Not Ready for FREEDOM
FREEDOM is EXTREMELY DIFFICULT — you should get a REGULAR, TRADITIONAL, CONSERVATIST LIFE What do I mean by such life? -Getting a job -Not rocking the boat -Not trying too hard to “find yourself” -Respecting your community, your family, your legacy, your culture -Being grateful and contributing -Being hard-working, diligent, useful and helpful …
Why It “Feels Like It Was Yesterday”
Yesterday, or last year, or 10 years ago — you had a VISION of something you would ONE DAY do One day meant next day or next month or next year You did not do it You are no longer going to do it Likely it’s not even possible to do it now, 10 years …