Let’s say you like a STEAK — and she likes a SALAD You probably won’t have the same thing for dinner Now this is fine You just say: you get yourself your salad, and I’ll have my steak But let’s say you’re also very opinionated about superiority of steaks, over some shrubs You …
Tag: Relations
Fuzzy Logic of Treating Others Well; Treat Those You Keep Exceptionally
-You can treat others better or worse, obviously -And you can be intrinsically more valuable to them, or less Those two will decide what people will want to do with you You shouldn’t ever patch, or ameliorate, that which is already ruined. If you’re not meant for each other — admit it as fast …
Selfishness Compass
One could conceive of selfishness compass It would comprise of two axes Horizontal could measure the degree of self-absorption, self-interest Vertical could measure the degree of IGNORANCE At an extreme left there would be utter self-absorption, utter self-obsession, with utmost disregard for the interest of others, An utterly solipsistic perspective No inhibition in disregarding …
We Intuitively Judge Others By Different Standards
We think we treats others equally We think we judge others by the same standards We don’t And on more than one level First there’s discrimination We don’t even acknowledge that we discriminate That’s because we don’t even know any more what it means Discriminate is to recognise a distinction The distinction just …
Judge People By Their WORST
Someone’s BEST can be result of many random factors: –LUCK -rare FLASH of brilliance -temporary MOTIVATION -even strategic effort to impress, get a job, etc Someone’s worst is far less volatile: -it at very least speaks of someone’s MINIMUM STANDARD -it’s the BEST for predicting the future — as it gives a RELIABLE BASELINE …
It’s Either FAIR, UNFAIR, or RANDOM
Fair means it conforms to certain rules: whether agreed as a community — or at least internally consistent and transparent. Unfair means the opposite: it breaks the rules. Whether it’s rules decided as a community, or even any consistent and complete set of rules. Random means it neither breaks the rules nor is explained by …
Everyone You Know Is An Idiot
Everyone you know is an idiot You just don’t know it yet Everyone you know believes something that, if you knew they believed it — you would have thought they were idiots If not that then Everyone you know, if put in a new situation, with new problem to solve, REAL new …
Cool vs Uncool
being “based”, saying what you think, and NOT being afraid of offending others = super cool offending others is uncool, lame, insecure it’s just like BEING COOL, vs TRYING TO LOOK COOL, you know? trying to “say a funny thing”, or “look strong”, or hint at your HIGH VALUE — that’s uncool as fuck, …
How DEAD Is It? What’s left?
What’s LEFT does not replace that which has passed The photograph does not replace the person, though it looks the same The person that changed is NOT the same person, though it’s named the same The place feels different without someone or something, though it’s still the same place etc Let’s not pretend …
The Deepest Reason Why Admitting Wrong Is Hard
Admitting wrong is hard, but doable But Admitting wrong — when you KNOW other’s won’t even understand it — is very very hard This is because there’s infinite many reasons to hold a certain position And infinite many reasons to hold opposing position You hold it for some specific own reason If that reason …