To change is to make changes

 

You don’t make changes in a vacuum.

The changes you make, the actions you take — are NOTICEABLE

not invisible, not in a vacuum, not “secret”

 

(your business-changes are visible in the business world,

your social changes are visible in your social life, social circle, your community,

even the changes you make in your space are VISIBLE — to anyone ever observing that space,

of course you probably believe that the CHANGES YOU MAKE WITHIN are somehow CONCEALED from the world,

but actually nothing is concealed from the world,

everything you ARE is evident — and every CHANGE you make about yourself is EVIDENT,

There may be no one to care to observe it — but it is OBSERVABLE — at all times)

 

Changes you make are visible, evident,

Changes you want to make will be visible, evident,

What you changed will be visible, evident

What you became will be visible, evident

And WHAT YOU WERE will be visible, evident

Therefore

To attempt a change is to LET oneself be REVEALED

 

To attempt a change is to LET oneself be REVEALED

To attempt a change is to let that which you are CHANGING be made KNOWN

To attempt a change is to make oneself vulnerable

To attempt a change is to PUBLICLY ADMIT WHAT YOU ARE (and what you are trying to change)

 

And THIS is why you fail to change

Because you’re NOT READY to ADMIT WHO YOU ARE

You are NOT READY to be SEEN THROUGH,

not ready to be plain, sincere, simple, frank,

Not ready to make a stand for yourself

Because NOT READY to take the risk of making yourself vulnerable

Of revealing oneself, conveying oneself — and thus making oneself vulnerable, making your TRUE SELF vulnerable — to an attack from the world

And if you’re not ready for those things,

then you’re not ready to change

Because CHANGING YOURSELF, truly changing, will invariably entail all those things

 

Truly changing yourself invariably entails all of the above

You have to admit who you are

You have to cease concealing who you are

You have to be willing to REVEAL who you are

And will have to be willing to become vulnerable, as you are

 

Thus

If you can’t change, this is why

Because you fear taking the risk of revealing to the world what you are

The answer lies in truth

 

Please forgive yourself,

Once you have forgiven yourself, truly forgiven yourself — then you will have forgiven the person that has now made known all his flaws and shortcomings to the world

That person you must forgive — that person — which you fear will be UNACCEPTABLE — once the world finds out who that person actually is,

That you must forgive — forgive it BEING UNACCEPTABLE

And THEN you make it real by ACTING ON IT — which is actually REVEALING yourself to the world. And that you should now be able to do — now that you forgave yourself.

Now that you forgave yourself you are able to take that risk. Because now you’re on your side.

And as you’re revealing yourself to the world — you’re continuously forgiving yourself.

And as you’re revealing yourself to the world, and FORGIVING yourself — you can actually start successfully changing yourself.

Make those changes which were previously impossible

 

Own it

Forgive yourself

Own it publicly

And finally change yourself

Make yourself whoever you want to be