“I don’t know” is usually the best answer,
Because why would you know?
The world is infinitely complicated
If you’re interacting with the world — you should be stumped all the time
Likewise “NEUTRAL” is usually the best attitude
For the same reason
Usually you don’t know what you’re dealing with
Not entirely
You don’t know what will happen, clearly. Who knows the future?
So unless you must make a decision — then NEUTRAL is probably the best attitude to take
The matter of our preferences shouldn’t be much simpler than the matter of the knowledge in general
Aren’t we complex creatures?
We may know our preferences about a finite set of objects
How would you know your preference when encountering an unknown object? A not-fully-known object?
Just like with all of the unknown — how could you know?
So maybe you learned to say “I don’t know” when you’re asked about something you’re less than competent in
And yet with matter of preferences — you confidently say “I don’t like this” — even if you’ve little experience with that thing
Indeed epistemic arrogance applies to self-knowledge too, and self-world relations
And how limiting it is too
Just like asserting understanding when there is none precludes you from searching for the truth,
Likewise asserting one’s attitude or preference when one couldn’t actually have one — precludes one from exploring that thing
Leading to an unexplored opportunity
Unexplored life
What a fucking waste of life
This is thus the core of the so called “limiting beliefs”,
You assert you don’t really like something or that it’s hopeless or that you don’t want to — and lose that opportunity
It’s the core of so much hostility and conflict — when your unacknowledged timidness and insecurity lead you to label others less-than-flattering things, even though you don’t know them.
You should always assume you “don’t know”
You still must make decisions — make them the best you can. But otherwise know that you don’t know,
AND LIKEWISE
ASSUME A NEUTRAL PREFERENCE
Show some humility before the wealth of possibilities
You’re probably NOWHERE NEAR experienced enough to have a refined preference on every subject,
…and even if you do — isn’t that a little limiting?
Of course have strong preferences when the stakes are high, where the risk is high and reward is high,
But if stakes are low — WHY NOT TRY?
And when risk is low — again — you basically must try
It’s positive expected value gamble then
So many such exist, but you assume you hate it, ergo essentially misappraise risk-reward ratio
That’s no way to get high returns in life
Finally, have courage to be neutral
You hate being neutral — because your opinion makes you feel comfortable
And it allows you to decline a ton of things
Including yourself
And it reduces your exposure to unknown, which you ultimately fear
Have courage to be NEUTRAL and NAIVE
NAIVE indeed is the word
Children are curious and neutral
They don’t have fucking opinions on politics
They don’t think their play is stupid
They don’t think it’s cringe to confuse two words
And that’s how they learn so fast
And that’s why they have so much fun
And that’s the courage you lack
Because you’re no longer neutral about those things
You don’t have the courage to be NAIVE
You’re so serious and opinionated, instead
You don’t want to look stupid, trusting the wrong person, trying that thing which will surely fail
And the fuck you got for it?