Fair means it conforms to certain rules: whether agreed as a community — or at least internally consistent and transparent. Unfair means the opposite: it breaks the rules. Whether it’s rules decided as a community, or even any consistent and complete set of rules. Random means it neither breaks the rules nor is explained by …
Tag: Relations
Everyone You Know Is An Idiot
Everyone you know is an idiot You just don’t know it yet Everyone you know believes something that, if you knew they believed it — you would have thought they were idiots If not that then Everyone you know, if put in a new situation, with new problem to solve, REAL new …
Cool vs Uncool
being “based”, saying what you think, and NOT being afraid of offending others = super cool offending others is uncool, lame, insecure it’s just like BEING COOL, vs TRYING TO LOOK COOL, you know? trying to “say a funny thing”, or “look strong”, or hint at your HIGH VALUE — that’s uncool as fuck, …
How DEAD Is It? What’s left?
What’s LEFT does not replace that which has passed The photograph does not replace the person, though it looks the same The person that changed is NOT the same person, though it’s named the same The place feels different without someone or something, though it’s still the same place etc Let’s not pretend …
The Deepest Reason Why Admitting Wrong Is Hard
Admitting wrong is hard, but doable But Admitting wrong — when you KNOW other’s won’t even understand it — is very very hard This is because there’s infinite many reasons to hold a certain position And infinite many reasons to hold opposing position You hold it for some specific own reason If that reason …
COMPARISON as a Useful Model
Comparison, metaphor — is like a model of a thing The purpose of a model is to represent something Model is of course NOT the thing itself It is but it’s representation It omits certain aspects of it — and represents other aspects In having a copy: theoretical or scaled down or whatever — …
What They Think
What they think matters IF -they are likely to be CORRECT -and MORE correct than you It’s that fucking simple You can’t tell yourself that you don’t care — if you SHOULD CARE Then you’re just being delusional NOT caring about INSIGHTS which could benefit you is obviously SELF-defeating You’re not rebelling against …
Success Guarantees Animosity and Separation
Success Guarantees Animosity and Separation Success guarantees animosity and separation The more you “succeed”, the more you separate yourself Obviously you do. You become different to get different outcomes Furthermore in getting different outcomes — you lose interest in the old outcomes Including old people, their old opinions, their old activities, all the …
Giving is Selfish, Altruistic and RATIONAL
Giving is obviously beneficial to the receiver — AND the giver Giving is obviously beneficial to the giver, selfishly It takes advantage of the reciprocity bias — often you’ll get more in return than you put in In giving you acquire trust You reveal peaceful, helpful intent And in continuing giving you maintain …
Admit You Don’t Like Them, NEUTRALLY
Why don’t you just admit that you don’t like someone Without having to first get angry or offended or conceited or quarrel with them Why don’t you just ADMIT that you have a PREFERENCE Without denigrating someone Without puffing up like a fucking peacock Without even a tincture of hostility Just an EXTREMELY CASUAL …