You can’t really blame the other person. The other person is precisely what it is. You can only ever blame your judgement. Or your management of the situation. Blame is really just a word used for a particular set of thoughts and feelings (thought-feelings). I can use the word “blame” to …
Tag: Relations
There Is Not a “Nice Way To Put It”
There is not “a nice way to put it” A spade is a fucking spade The only question is: to speak or not to speak
A Man Who Respects Himself
A man who respects himself ought not put up with anything he doesn’t approve of. Unless he doesn’t have a choice. In which case he should accept it completely – and make NOT ONE complaint about it. This sounds simple and banal perhaps – but it is actually most difficult. The difference between …
Being An Amazing Person
Being an amazing person is underrated. Amazing people charge others with their amazing energy. Amazing people build an amazing world of happiness. I really don’t care about your achievements and successes. Does it make the world a happier place? I am proud of every amazing person and their capacity to enjoy this beautiful life, and …
I Take Small Talk Over a Lecture Every Day
Contrary to popular belief – small talk is not devoid of substance. There are vast worlds of meanings, emotions, personalities, relations, concealed between the words – if only you can listen. With many people – the only way to avoid hearing another conceited lecture or bombastic monologue — is to small-talk them. Small talk …
Alienating “Good” Impression
I wonder if some people never realise how their desperation to make a good impression only makes them twice as alienating. Forthrightness goes such a long way — often in ways we can’t explain but know to be true. If you know someone who tries a little bit too hard — be forthright …
REAL Social Justice
Our society is not perfect. It’s a fact. There are many societal problems which I won’t even state. I imagine you have your own problems with society. Now, how do you go about those problems? We, humans, have an unfortunate tendency to identify. We identify with things. What we identify with – we …
Don’t Be More Attractive – Be More Loving
You think the way you interact with people is “normal”. You think changing your default behaviour is “not being real”, or “unnatural”, perhaps. The way you interact with people is not normal. The way you create relationships is not normal. It is not normal and it is not natural. You are a victim of …
Directness Is a SUPERPOWER
Directness really IS a superpower. For it really only comes with self-acceptance, self-understanding, self love, self reliability… After a lifetime of self-denial, repression, compliance, obedience, self-sacrifice, trusting others with your happiness and self-worth — directness truly IS a superpower. …for when you finally say what you think — you are that much closer to DOING …
NEVER justify yourself to ANYONE
NEVER justify yourself to anyone. Never ever. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. You don’t owe anyone anything. When you are genuine — there is nothing more that you have to do. When you are genuine, when you are simple, when you speak your mind, when you don’t look to manipulate people — there …