Every interpersonal conflict is but the discrepancy between what is expected and what is communicated. Many are not even themselves aware of their expectations — thus bound for conflict. With others, with themselves… Accord stands on the pillars of clear communication and clarity of vision. Clarity of vision is ultimately a matter …
Tag: Relations
Discriminate Not Hate
whether I hate you or love you whatever I label you or don’t label whether I offend you or please you doesn’t change the only thing of substance, and that’s: WHETHER you are USEFUL to me OR NOT just because I don’t want to associate with you doesn’t mean I hate you just because …
You And Strangers
you don’t have your credentials and numbers in your bank account next to your face in real life you don’t have your likes and followers next to your face in real life when you’re face to face you are naked the beauty of strangers is they make you a stranger you think they can’t …
I don’t trust the unhappy
I don’t trust the unhappy I don’t trust the unhappy I’m not saying it lightly and it’s not a fancy quip It’s a genuine good advice Stay away from the unhappy Unhappy is unhappy for a reason Whatever causes him to be unhappy is an ongoing process Whatever actions he engages in are …
Grateful You Failed Me
I’m grateful to people for failing me It’s very easy to fake competence and virtue and very hard to prove it. I’m glad when someone fails me and immediately signals his incompetence Takes a long time to ascertain someone’s ability but only one mistake to reveal inability.
Convey YOURSELF
You likely didn’t upset that person. They were upset to begin with. It’s very easy to upset a faceless stranger. It’s very easy to impress a stranger. You don’t want to impress random strangers. You don’t want to cater to the mob. You don’t want to make it happy. Make your loved ones …
Have Standards Not For Standards But What It Communicates
Holding oneself to high standards derives even more benefits from the high quality connections you attract then from the standards themselves There’s a good point to be made against fussy thoroughness or undeviating forthrightness But there’s a better point to be made for them when you take into account the kind of people that …
Appereances Are Not Really Shallow
Appearances are not really shallow It’s your perception which is shallow Your perception is shallow and incomplete You don’t truly see the person, or the thing To make things worse — you see your own projections, your own mirages Your preconception about the person, about the thing, is the very definition of …
Goodness is Simple
Goodness is simple You have a person in front of you How do you treat that person? Are you making that person happy? Are you making that person smile? Are you helping that person? Are you benefiting that person? Are you leaving that person better than you found them? Or is it the opposite? …
How Can You Be Human If…
How can you be human if you’re a success a career an idea a place a religion a number first ? Every notion is separating Anytime you think you are something more then human you cease being human And then you are lost And then you are alone And then you don’t …