You must set your own rules

 

That’s because YOUR reality is subjective

 

Your rules STILL account for the reality

It’s just your subjective reality

 

And much of your subjective reality is OBJECTIVE REALITY

Because you interact with the world

Any part of the reality you interacted with is objective — and NOW has ALSO become subjective

 

You can take someone else’s rules

It doesn’t mean those are “not my own rules”

They can be your own rules — if they pertain to the SHARED aspects of reality

 

You should take the rules from others ALL THE TIME

Because those rules have been refined over eons

 

You should take the rules from others ALL THE TIME

Because abiding by their explicit rules can often get you what you yourself want

 

You should not pretend however that the rules ACCOUNT FOR THE REALITY — if they don’t

Whether it’s the objective reality,

or your subjective reality

the moment a rule doesn’t account for reality — it is utterly useless

Anything that deviates from the reality is not useful but harmful

Obviously, by definition

 

You should take your rules very very very seriously

And then there’s not much seriousness about everyone else’s rules

UNLESS you made those rules your own

Unless you CHOSE to care

 

And of course when you are so profoundly grounded in your own VALUE SYSTEM,

it’s not so easy for some minor nuisance to frustrate you

It’s not so easy for some nonsense to annoy you

It’s not so easy for someone to embarrass you, belittle you, intimidate you

OR validate you

You’re self-validated

Your own rules and your adherence to them are what validates you

 

And of course not much of the worldly nonsense can “go wrong“ — unless you DECIDED to value it, unless you made it your internal rule

And likely you didn’t make a rule out of stuff that’s not entirely under your control

And thus anything that’s not entirely under your control becomes quite ineffectual at rattling you

You notice the board

You don’t identify with the board

You identify with the moves

 

You notice the board and there’s nothing to fucking say, just the next move

Someone has a problem? You’ll only explain your next move

Someone doesn’t like you? I don’t see what it changes about your next move

Something went to shit? This is merely a new move that you have to figure out

The world is utter chaos and you’ve no clue what is going on? You still can only MAKE YOUR NEXT MOVE, where you’ve ASCERTAINED you have the edge, you have control, you ARE RESPONSIBLE

YOU TURN TO THE RULES — YOUR RULES — AND MAKE YOUR MOVE

 

It’s no coincidence being so placid and grounded makes you look profoundly attractive, petty as it sounds

We all know power when we see it

If nothing can bother you — clearly you’re dancing to a different tune

Too powerful to even notice the buzz of the mosquitoes

And you are indeed

Only if you have your OWN rules